Carrying sweetly accompanies from the belly to the world
In the belly of the mother, a child is doing very well: love, restraint, warmth, movement and nourishment. What more could you want from life? Once out in the “big cold”, love remains; but all the rest? How can we actively support this change?
Normally, the first means of transport used, from a century and a half to this part, as soon as they leave the hospital is the wheelchair. Everyone has forgotten that there is a better one: the mother. How can only a baby carriage and a bed, although with the cutest dolls in the world, reviving the newborn those conditions that he knew in the womb and so reassure him?
It’s inevitable that that tender beginning rightly cursing in his own way.
We do not remember clearly those moments, but observing the desperation of babies in certain situations we should perhaps ask ourselves questions.
When I was suggested to make my child cry (“so the lungs enlarge”), to give him rules for eating (“he will have time for this if he wants to do military service, no?”) And to leave him alone in his room to despair (“otherwise the vices!”), I’ve always wondered: BUT WHY?
At the time, although I had studied a lot about motherhood, I had an intimate insecurity and I didn’t know what was “right” or “wrong”.
At one point I gave myself an answer: WHY NO! And I just started listening to my instincts. Aware that I would have made many mistakes (those who don’t), but at least I would have experienced what my heart would bring me to do.
I tried, therefore, not to suffocate what I felt and to listen to my intimate feelings: through me and as much as possible in contact with my body – rather than just – my child could have discovered the peaceful and safe world.
And so I started bringing my son a few days after he was born. It seemed to me the most natural way to accompany him gently from the belly to the world.
It is of fundamental importance for parents of the human species to fully understand what the immaturity of their newborns means: that the child continues his gestational period even after he is born.
Through bodily contact with the mother, the child establishes the first contacts with the world, and these involve him in a new dimension of experience, the experience of the world of others. This bodily contact is the primary source of well-being, safety, warmth and increasingly predisposes to new experiences.
The babywearing Rebozo allows prolonging the gestational period, providing the child with the possibility of an optimal development of the brain and nervous system.
Many other researchers define the bringing of children and other habits apt to “recall” prenatal conditions with an expression: “transitional uterus”, that is, a place to continue the development that at birth presents us with “premature” birth to the world.
The human being as a species is very immature at birth. The volume of its brain represents 25% of the volume it will reach in adulthood, against, for example, 45% in chimpanzees and the percentage is greater in other mammals.
In short, at birth homo is not so “sapiens” as you think! And if it is true, as authoritative neuroscientists report, that the brain of a newborn increases by about three times its size in the first year, we cannot deny that the stimuli and experiences lived in this first period of life are of fundamental importance for him.